I figured it out.  It was happening on every item that had a variation.  I discovered that the Automatically Add Item to check button must be turned off if you have variations for an item.  At least the way I have things set up with variations, if it is turned on it automatically adds the first variation and you have no chance to make a selection.  My example is coffee.  I set it up with three sizes, small medium and large with different prices.  The default setting is with the Automatically Add Item to check button turned on.  When you go to select coffee it was immediately added to the check without option of selecting size.  Seems like the button should be automatically turned off if you have variables.

This section is now called "Check out behavior" and the toggle should be off to show all variations.